Thursday, March 13, 2008

Love & Logic-

This is another post regarding the parenting class I was involved in today. It was titled "Love and Logic". I just want to give some quotes from the book and/or dvd that this comes from and you take what you want/need from it:
  • "Love allows children to grow through their mistakes. Logic allows them to live with the consequences of their choices."
  • 4 principles: 1) shared control- parents gain control by giving away the control they don't need. 2) shared thinking and decision making- parents provide opportunities for children to do the greatest amount of thinking and decision-making. 3) equal shares of consequences and empathy- an absence of parental anger causes a child to think and learn from his or her mistakes. 4) maintaining a child's self concept- improved self-concept leads to improved behavior and improved achievement.

Most of you know most of this and so do I, but it helps me to write it and read it to remember some basic principles.


Jonatha said...

You are right, it does help when we put it into words (at least for me!). It seems like when I sit down with my hubby and talk it out that helps a TON. He seems to have the calm/logic that I tend to miss. I'm the emotional parent :) Thanks for the information!

Anonymous said...

Hi there,
Very good advice.
I always liked the work "empathy" because I read that many kids/adults who get into trouble because they don't have empathy for others.
It's a necessary ingredient for a life well lived. Love, Aunt CLR